S13 Don't Confuse Belonging with Get-Alonging, it's Dangerous
S13 Don't Confuse Belonging with Get-Alonging, it's Dangerous
You thought they had your back? You spent time building relationships and alliances. But, … {fill in your own story.}
Did you find yourself going back in time, or maybe, you’re in a current situation?
Get-Alonging is a set of conventions that allow us to navigate and interact with each other trustfully. In short, we move within the expectations without agreement. “If I behave this way things should work out this way.” You’re safe if you follow their rules.
Belonging allows us to have trust in the person that we go into explicit or deeply implicit agreement with. It’s not about the convention, it’s about the embedded relationship. Belonging is the glue that makes the agreement sticky, and that gives us a “work-towards boundary to keep us in the same game together. In belonging, we’re safer in our rules, the Us-Rules.
What if you could develop a sisterhood/brotherhood with whom you belonged?
We’ll dive into this Conversession (conversational and interactive experience), to give you an understanding of your belonging to help you reduce the chances of getting caught in alliances that leave you high and dry.
Topic area (Workplace Politics)
Up to 24 people for Zoom Conversessions, 36 for in-person
In this 1hr session we’ll cover:
Am I in Belonging? The Feel, Own, Care Checkin
Get-along, or get along little doggy…
Expectations versus Agreements, and Our Brains
Where Does the Motivation Live: People, Purpose, or Pay?
Up to 36 people in person, 24 over Zoom
What you get when you apply and do what you’ve learned:
Differentiating Belonging versus Get-Alonging
Adversary is ok, don’t confuse it with enemy
Belonging has feel-own-care both ways
Avoiding the Expectation Trap
Crafting spaces in agreement versus expectation, “What would it take?”
Optional Prerequisite:
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