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Training your dog doesn’t have to feel like a battle of wills. The same neurobiology that helps us humans form habits also works for our dogs. Their brains, like ours, are wired to belong …
When we are theirs and they are ours, we fight for each other instead of against each other. The Own part in Feel Own Care Belonging and A Little Old Lady
Why make a bet on when you’ll quit your New Year’s resolution when you can set yourself up to achieve it naturally? Here’s a little secret, we all have 4Rs available to us for moving an intention or practice into a habit.
He ran. For himself. For his trainers. For his team. For his country. For his world. That’s a lot of stacked belonging to tap into. And a lot of performance. Same goes for every person you hire.
Frame #1. We’re always in a mix of Fear, Belonging, and Aspiration.
Frame #2. We’re wired for real belonging, where we: Feel, Own, and Care for each other in Successes, Dreams, and Failures.
Frame #3 We’re wired to belong across 6 Areas of the tribal Belonging Culture.
When we define belonging this way, we get a frame for living out a new belief where our belonging is also in our power to create. So, that even in the stress during the formation of belonging, we actually can get stronger.
We should look for ways to contort the technology towards being human as opposed to dehumanizing us toward the technology.
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We all want to belong with the people in our company, believe in the company’s purpose. To live from our values and strengths, and really join in our stories. To have the autonomy and ownership of our own practices, as we work to grow personally and help our company grow. Remote or otherwise, CEOs- just make it so your people can get a yes to these six affirmations, and watch your company change the world.
For SEALs, service and team matter most, and because of that, they pursue and practice excellence in emotional ability and technical skills in order to never let their teammates down.
Players with great coaches believe they can always be better. And they do better. The great coach keeps the space where failure is expected as part of progress and increased competence.
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You self-belong when, you feel, own, and care for yourself, in your successes, dreams, and failures, just as you would for the people with whom you belong.
Belonging lessens fear and makes our aspirations achievable from our pooled hearts, intellect and strengths.
F.O.C. U Belonging & Performance Workshops
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Feel, Own, Care Belonging drives the Well-being that drives organization’s Performance!
An 8-year 24 million submission study revealed that belonging is the #1 Driver of the well-being that drives your organizational performance.
In this workshop, you'll learn how belonging generates sustained Oxytocin and Serotonin levels and leads to higher-performing and united teams. We’ll cover how to create self-sustaining emotional fortitude and confidence within teams. Real relational belonging sets us up for the neurobiology of unite and fight versus neutral or fight/flight.
We’ll dive into the science of what's going on in you, help you identify the benefits of having belonging , and set you up to design your lead measures for elevating your optimal performance.
We'll go through three conversession segments on the topics below. Each segment has a 7-10-minute TED Talk-ish share + 7-10 minutes of interactive conversation that brings the concept of belonging and wellness into your real concrete experience and agency.
All the segments are grounded in the social behavioral and neurosciences.
Up to 24 people for Zoom Conversessions, 36 for in-person
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F.O.C. n' Belonging brings wellness and resilience back into your control!
A seven-year 15 million submission study revealed that belonging is the number one driver for well-being.
In this workshop, you'll get a new understanding of belonging and how your neurobiology shifts while in it, bringing the agency for your wellness back to you. You'll be introduced to a deeper more nuanced understanding of belonging that's relational at its core, with one's "self" and with others.
We'll go through three conversession segments on the topics below. Each segment has a 7-10-minute TED Talk-ish share + 7-10 minutes of interactive conversation that brings the concept of belonging and wellness into your real concrete experience and agency.
All the segments are grounded in the social behavioral and neurosciences.
Up to 24 people for Zoom Conversessions, 36 for in-person
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It's a lack of Self-Belonging and good Self-Talk, not Imposter Syndrome
Wouldn't it be wonderful to have more confidence, courage, and assertiveness? You already have a source for that. Your self-talk, your self-belonging, and your belonging with others. More than likely, your self-talk ping-pongs between a carrot and stick frame. We're going to tap into that place in you that fears less and aspires more, your belonging. Odds are, it's not your impostor.
We’ll dive into this Conver-session (conversational and interactive experience), to give you an understanding of your own belonging to help you move from your worst critic to your biggest supporter.
We'll go through three conversession segments on the topics below. Each segment has a 7-10-minute TED Talk-ish share + 7-10 minutes of interactive conversation that brings the concept of self-belonging and self-talk into your real concrete experience and agency.
All the segments are grounded in the social behavioral and neurosciences.
Up to 24 people for Zoom Conversessions, 36 for in-person
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A Zoom interview configuration that works with your brain in belonging instead of against it!
There’s a way to do your Zoom interview that leaves you and the person across from you, energized and better connected. Where you provide the clarity and emotional presence to move forward in trusting impact, as someone they’d love to work with.
Being the humans that we are, we need to give and receive relational signals that build connection, clarity, and trust, that is in short, belonging. (Hint: looking down your nose at somebody rarely creates the bond that takes us to a unite & fight emotional place.)
Interviewing over Zoom is here to stay, so I’m here to help you set yourself up for an easier and better way going forward.
Would you like to stop your unintentional sending and receiving of wrong signals, that leave you and your interviewers fatigued and unclear?
We can work together one on one, or in groups of 10-24 at a time.
Session lengths for 1-on-1: 2-3 hrs for 1-on-1 w/ up to three 1-1 followups.
Cost is $150 per person.And for groups: 2-3 hrs per group w/ up to two group followups and one 1-1 followup per person.
Cost is $39 per person w/a minimum of 10
Group Session requires a minimum of 10 people
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Zooming that works with your brain in belonging instead of against it!
There’s a way to do your one-on-one and group Zoom meetings that leaves you energized and better connected. Where you provide the clarity and feeling your people need to move forward in trusting belonging and accountability, instead of stalling between fear and aspiration.
Being the humans that we are, we need to give and receive relational signals that build connection, clarity, and trust, that is, belonging. (Hint: looking down your nose at somebody rarely creates the bond that takes us to unite and fight, versus fight/flight.)
Looks like working over video is here to stay, so I’m here to help you set yourself up for an easier and better way going forward. Would you like to stop your unintentional sending and receiving of wrong signals that leave you and your teams fatigued and unclear about your paths ahead?
We can work together one on one, or in groups of up to nine of your people at a time.
Session lengths for 1-on-1: 2-3 hrs for 1-on-1 w/ up to three 1-1 followups.
Cost is $300 per person.And for groups: 2-3 hrs per group w/ up to two group followups and one 1-1 followup per person.
Cost is $100 per person
Group Sessions from 3 to 9 people for Zoom Conversessions.
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Employees with high levels of belonging are 56% more productive.
You’ve got big dreams and you’re making them happen. Ever find yourself or your team getting stuck right before the next level? You know what you could do, but you don’t. You can even imagine yourself doing it. It plays over and over. Chances are, you’ve got high aspirations, a ton of pressure, and not quite enough belonging. There is a way to get past that, where you and your people can support and challenge each other in belonging to boost your company into an even higher orbit.
In this seminar, we’ll explore how fear, belonging, and aspiration work together. How you're living each of these emotions out, contributes to amazing teams and workplaces. My hope is to give you an understanding of how you can use belonging to overcome fear’s gravity and achieve your aspirations together, making you and your teams thrive as individuals and as committed and accountable members within your larger company tribe.
Up to 24 people for Zoom Conversessions, 36 for in-person
In elite performing teams, the same neurobiology applies.
When leaders consistently turn toward the small bids — a question, a concern, a celebration — they create the chemistry of belonging: